Are You The Alpha Male of Your Group?

Are You The Alpha Male of Your Group?

The term “pecking order” is usually used
when we are talking about groups of humans and the hierarchies they form, but it was
originally used when scientists were studying the hierarchy of chickens. The animals demonstrate their power in the
group by pecking each other. Sounds brutal, and it is, but it’s just
the way things work. Chimpanzees can be incredibly ruthless, with
the stronger members of the group sometimes literally tearing the weaker chimps to pieces. The stronger male chimps get all the girls,
the best food, and the coziest place to sleep at night. Us humans, with our consciousness and conscientiousness,
tend not to be so hostile, but we do form hierarchies. Where do you stand in this hierarchy? That’s what we’ll find out today, in this
episode of the Infographics Show, Are you the alpha male of your group? First of all, we are not saying that humans
form a very rigid and structured hierarchy exactly the same as some animals, such as
the aforementioned chimps. Nonetheless, we certainly do create a status
for ourselves throughout life and our success in life affords us lots of benefits. The controversial Canadian clinical psychologist
Jordan Peterson believes we work in these hierarchies and have always done so. He compares our brains to the brains of lobsters,
in that like the crustacean, our confidence and power is awarded with secretions of serotonin,
and that only gives us more power. The alpha lobster seems to have it easy. So, what is an alpha? The dictionary terms for alpha male says basically
it’s a dominant male in a group, or a person that is dominant in certain situations or
in a professional role. Looking at various descriptions of alpha male,
you will find certain things are usually repeated. It’s said they are usually charming, attractive,
and will have no problem finding a female mate. While some experts state that these alpha
males might be bullies, others state that the true alpha male will be a protector of
his friends. He can fight, but he is reasonable and will
not lash out. Well, we should tell you that you can also
have an alpha female, or even an alpha pair, it just depends what species of animal we
are talking about. As for humans, some scientists tell us that
we don’t even have this kind of ranking system. It’s an ongoing debate. We certainly do have a way of behaving in
groups, and when studied, that’s called ethology. We’ll let you decide if humans have similar
dominance dynamics to animals. Some species will have an alpha, but there
is also a second in command called the beta. Then there is the lowest in the pecking order,
the unfortunate beasts that are submissive and subordinate to others in the group. These are called omegas. We’ll give you a quick rundown of other
personality traits in the form of alpha male adjectives: courageous, entertaining, athletic,
funny, humble, intelligent, talkative, hardworking, fair, stylish, self-composed, ethical, independent,
generous, and persuasive. There are more descriptions, but you get the
idea. The alpha male according to some sources is
pretty much a perfect man, and far from the bullying, brutal alpha chimpanzee. He almost sounds like a fictional character,
given that to have all those traits is not an easy thing. If we actually look at fictional alpha males,
even some of those could be said to be lacking. Some of those men include: Tyler Durden from
Fight Club, James Bond, Tony Stark, Danny Ocean from Ocean’s Eleven, and even Jon
Snow. What about alpha males in real life? According to the author Stefan Djordjevic,
we certainly do fill these rolls. At least, he says, men do. He wrote a book called, “How to Approach
Women – Effective Ways to Be More Alpha.” In the book he examines the concept of alpha
males, but he says that the traits of these men can be learned, rather than something
we are just born with. The traits are what we have already discussed,
and the first thing to learn is to be confident. Success pays in serotonin, and that builds
happiness and more confidence. But this seems too simplistic. In an article in the Independent in 2017,
psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman said being alpha male is context specific. He gives the example of a Fortune 500 company
CEO being given a very high social status, but if that CEO were to find himself in one
of the USA’s toughest prisons, his status would likely soon be beta or omega. “You can be an alpha amongst one group,
and a beta in another,” he said. He also said that what makes men attractive
to women is very complicated, but certain traits such as confidence, kindness, and assertiveness
are pretty much always attractive. Power and certainly aggression can be viewed
as unattractive. So, you might be the alpha male of your rugby
team, but that might not work in the office. Kaufman takes a dim view of the aggressive
alpha male, saying, “The true alpha is fuller, deeper, and richer.” The alpha male must be cultivated, he says,
which is a far cry from the powerful Genghis Khan type of alpha male. But, what do others think? Is the alpha male just a myth, or is denying
that such men exist a kind of political correctness? Stanford Professor Robert Sapolsky tells us
it is a myth, that we are too complex to have such a structured hierarchy and we also have
many different groups of people we spend time with. However, in a 2014 article in Psychology Today,
it was stated that while we may not have alpha males, we certainly have social dominance. Tall, strong men are usually dominant, the
article said, and it cited research showing that height can even affect how much money
you earn. It also cited research related to how men
with deep voices are more successful with women, something called “the Barry White
Effect.” Not surprisingly, handsome men also are said
to be more dominant. So, if you are tall, a smooth talker, and
have a handsome, rugged face, it is likely that women will want to procreate with you. In a separate article by the same source,
it was said that hormones in men matter a lot when it comes to attracting a woman. “A strong sense of connection to others
in the group increases levels of oxytocin, which moderate stress and allows high levels
of testosterone to promote competitive behavior,” said the article. So, in order to promote increases of this
hormone, we need empathy and we need to bond, which again is a far cry from the image of
the aggressive alpha male. We looked at more research regarding this
controversial topic. In a 2016 Guardian story, one neuroscientist
called Dean Burnett writes that certainly some men will be socially dominant, and this
will be down to a combination of physical and psychological qualities. But, and it’s a big but, sometimes these
dominant men are just faking their confidence. They are all show, said the article, and by
pretending to be an alpha male, you often get what you want. But again, contradictions will occur. Reiterating what others have said, a dominant
man in the factory might well be under the thumb of his lover. The argument for a universal alpha is apparently
quite weak in terms of research, so we have to look at context. He argues that perhaps the human alpha male
is actually “a combination of disgruntled male wish fulfilment and borderline-pseudoscientific
justification for resorting to bullying, intimidation and generally all-round unpleasant behavior.” This doesn’t seem like such a good thing,
but then it is only one point of view. So, do you think you are the alpha among your
friends? Let us know in the comments. Also, be sure to check out our other video
called What Makes Popular Kids Popular? Thanks for watching, and, as always, don’t
forget to like, share, and subscribe. See you next time!

100 thoughts on “Are You The Alpha Male of Your Group?

  1. I had bullies in hs so I guess that makes me "omega". I started going to the gym every day starting at 15, and now at 30 most self described "alphas" don't want problems with me. No, I'm not alpha now, I'm just a good natured person who is big enough defend himself and others, so if you come around trying to justify bullying people by calling yourself alpha, I'll gladly knock your teeth out. And since I'm just an anonymous guy on the internet, just remember, Mike Tyson, 2pac, and a whole bunch of professional fighters, tough guys, and fitness people all said they got bullied as kids. Being "omega" sometimes makes you tougher, while the so-called "alpha" bullies often grow up fat, complacent, and undisciplined due to not having the same kind of drive and desire. My point is, treat people with respect and don't try to act entitled and better than other people because you labeled yourself "alpha". There are a lot of buff "omegas" out here with a chip on their shoulders just waiting for an "alpha" to give them a reason to knock them down a few pegs.

  2. I have plenty of friends, had few girls that were interested but nothing happened which was like years ago. Never was a leader or a follower. So people like me so of them hate me to the core. I don't think I fit in any category.

  3. Dont gent wrong with alpha.. the true alpha are reliable on decision making. Most all you got in your HS were bullies, the disfunctional aggresive people.

  4. Tall: Yep
    Wear uniform: Well not in friday.
    Confident: Kinda
    Clothes status: Neutral (Normal)
    Clothes status (In vacation): Cool (Great, i do include a jacket incase when i get cold.)
    Attractive: Nah, im not.
    Charming: Nuh-uh.
    Funny: Yep.
    Mature: Of course im mature, In real life.
    Age: 17.

  5. I’m either the alpha or beta in my minor group, def beta in major… popular cause I’m kind I guess? Need and popular kid

  6. Status like alphas or betas are real but it is not something neccesarily inherent. It is something developed because you have to prove your dominance to others. This is proven even among animals. The are no animal just boren alpha that develop to be that way by successfully showing there dominance to their group

  7. Not sure but I might be an alpha female. Really easy to make someone listen to me in my group. Not sure if I'm the alpha or they're listining to everyone.

  8. I'm easily the alpha, I call the shots and if someone hurts my friends, unless they're extremely in the wrong, boy is someone gonna have a bad time

  9. James Bond and Tyler Durden are more of the Sigma male trait. While the Alpha male is the conformed King of his land, the Sigma male is the one the King's daughter (Princess) runs away with

  10. Alpha👏Wolfs👏Are👏A👏Rumour👏
    "Alphas" are actually the mother of the wolfs but nobody listened when the first person to find an "alpha" wolf tried to disprove his own theory.

  11. I don't know what am I but if I want to be in the middle front I can do it anytime and I already did so many times.Even the alpha of the group back off if I want to be in the front and no one complains. What am I?

  12. I am alpha; however, I am the bottom of the food chain in world of financial success. For in ancient Greek stoic philosophy, that any man who acknowledges the full character of his whole being with understanding that modesty and honesty shall keep him under the thumb of any govern'd rule. Unless he so seek to move forward that modesty with lies and rebiliousness shall garuntee to strife in status.

  13. 5:08 So, if you are tall, a smooth talker, and have a handsome rugged face…
    – And the guy looks like Kanye West XD

  14. I don’t really care about the whole alpha beta thing, but when I really think about it. In my close circle of friends I would definitely be the Alpha. At work there are 2 other Alphas that i know of. One of them constantly tries to put me down in front of others (and succeeds at times 😒). The other one is easier going way more laid back and just a cool dude in general, he will put the other alpha down (that at times bothers me) openly in front of everyone if triggered enough. Now back to the “alpha” that tries to check me. Can’t say I really consider him all that Alpha, it’s just that he’s prob the biggest guy in the workplace but has zero clue on how to approach women. This he’s told me himself…

    I’m just an aggressive person by nature which is why I guess I’d be an alpha. I try to be nice but can’t help going off on people who try to BS me. Matter of fact I think I will clown that alpha tomorrow that messed with me today in front of this one chick…🤔

  15. Nobody will ever control me and I never want to control others.. I'm Delta.. I roll solo.. invested in apt buildings in The West Indies so nobody tells me what to do..

  16. Alpha, beta, omega, whatever – they have no meaning to me. I'm myself, I do what I want. Not interested in bossing other people around and certainly not interested in doing what other people want me to do. I'm friendly, so long as people don't bother me. But I'm not interested in social hierarchies so I don't really interact with people in that way.

  17. Talkative, entertaining, intelligent and humble.
    Just about enough to debunk everyone who bullies others because they are weaker so there aren't going to be consequences of being alphas

    Also bragging about being an alpha doesn't mean you can't be one, however if this was common knowledge people would pretend to be alpha by bragging, which is not cool

  18. Not only am I the alpha of my group but in my whole grade because if I start something everyone else will follow and sometimes side with me against teachers I feel bad for the teachers ngl but sometimes they just pick on me for no reason

  19. BRUTAL ALPHA MALES: El Chapo, EL Mencho, Pablo Escobar, John Gotti,
    ANCIENT ALPHA MALES: Alexander the great, Genghis Khan
    Genetically pre-dispositioned alpha males: 60 percent usually endup in jail
    (suge knight for example)

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