Society for Creative Anachronism
Rape is never a “consequence”. Saying it is is victim blaming. Why are we still doing this?
Sex bots in aisle 6 at Walmart on sell
He goes into the emotional backlash from birth control but doesn't talk about the 'idiocracy' effect on actual human reproduction (fertility among educated women in the developed world is ridiculously low), which is a whole lot more scary in the long run than post-coital regrets.
I'm keeping my virginity for my future partner, I think it's so personal and special I am saving it for that one person.
Whats wrong with hookups ?? I see nothing wrong with it
Speaks a man who is married since is early adulthood…You can't have a good opinion about something you do not know about, you can only speculate. How can he know you cannot separate sex from emotion? Maybe he can't…Did he even try it? Intelligent people think they can talk about everything…
He really hit the nail on the head when he mentioned alcohol.It was a big origin point for many of my problems with the opposite sex. Once I stopped drinking, I was able to control myself better, and avoid situations where idiots assumed I was required to control their behaviour as well while they were drunk .
Haven't had anymore of those problems since.
This guy is L E G E N D A R Y
In the series "Rome" is strongly suggested that the husband and wife had in fact worked out code speak for consent. I recall being in relationships where mutual consent took place before anything else. I think the Romans did it better. "The calendar is correct." Hee hee hee hee!!
Im surprised people feel like this is actually smart. He's acting like sex is this special meaningful thing we must wait and think about strongly when it's just the single most natural thing in the world. Stop putting your own personal views on an objective topic. People are designed to just want to fuck a lot
Watch it at 2x speed, thank me later
Listening to Peterson, you think he is a genius but when you actually think about it, what he says is so elementary you wonder why you haven’t thought about it.
2:10 – 2:50 ..no, date rape is planned. a man sets out to do that shit and it takes a certain type of person to do it. i'm the kind who's been considered to do this by a community in response to my generally creepy and fucked up state of existing, without actually having date-raped or at all-raped a single person. presumably, someone unsuccessful at finding sex and frustrated at his failures. let alone more dark reasons/intentions
4:00 – 5:00 so, people want to control how they feel after doing something they regret the morning after but also want to do whatever they want when they feel like it (e.g. when drunk). people want to have their cake and eat it too, well it's time to get real and as Jordan recommends in general, take responsibility. your sexual partner is not responsible for what you chose to do when intoxicated. one can't expect the other to bear the burden of one's own bad decisions.. so frustrating
"If you're too embarrassed to talk about it, maybe it's a little premature in the relationship to actually do it."
I think one factor would be the old notion that telling people to be be sexually responsible is somehow anti-feminist, that looking for long-term monogamous relationships is akin to keeping women barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. Women are the ones who choose with whom and why they mate. The problem was created by irresponsible radical feminism in the first place.
One of the things that makes Peterson so attractive is that he sounds so damn authoritative. It really seems like he knows what he's talking about. But does he really? He uses a lot straw man arguments, like the Princeton dance consent nonsense (not really true) and I have never heard anybody suggesting written consent forms for dating. Of course, it's easy to sound wise when you use absurd examples as the counterpoint to what you're saying. Listen to this carefully. He hasn't clearly articulated the problem, and he sure as hell hasn't provided any answers.
I get the sense that Peterson has some views on sex (who doesn't) and is a victim of confirmation bias — he looks for evidence that supports his views. There are plenty of societies where long term monogomy is decidedly not the norm.
His lobster tie! Haha
Yeah birth control made everybody fuck around…Those poor hookers in the past having to file for bankruptcy and the men that where in foreign lands away from their wives, their blue balls must have made them stink bad.
Jordan has an agenda and it smells awfully like sucking the rich kids dick.
I love Jp. But he clearly hasn't had socially awkward men (or sexually aggressive men) who don't know how to read women approach him with sexual intent. I think those are the people who need to learn about consent. I agree that the whole control thing, and written consent stuff is OTT. BUT there is a POWER in learning to ask for consent. Not for every move. But for significant ones. Particularly as sexual assault is so high and as a result, so many women go into freeze response and don't know how to say no. I had to teach my ex to ask permission before putting his fingers places before I was ready. He had never been taught how to know when a woman was ready and it was actually really upsetting when he would go there before my body was ready. once he started asking, my body trusted him more and it improved our intimacy and relational trust. So many men simply aren't taught these things because it's taboo to go there. Most WOMEN aren't. No one is. Consent is important, but like many issues, it's being used incorrectly and with weaponised intent.
Sex outside of intercourse is a childlike fantasy. Its playing with fire until you get really hurt or die.
The cheapening of both parties. Because yeah, abstinence gives you value as a human being.
Do I need to ask for consent before punching this guy in the face? I can I just deduce from his body language that he needs it
"most of the time people should be more careful with their sexual behavior…." [6:02]. Why though? I don't think he clearly explained any particular reasoning. Generally big fan of his though
The world would be a vastly better place if the wants and needs of the opposite sex was a subject taught in school; it would be an eye-opening 3-5 year course for boys, and a very informative weekend workshop for girls.
islam is truly a blessing, drinking alcohol having drugs are prohibited, sex before marriage is also prohibited. Allah does not deny anything to humans unless it is harmful to them
Jordan Peterson is a Canadian nut case
Ah cmon. The rule of sex is "follow your biological default and hide it well if you are male."
Ban alcohol ok Jordan that worked so well before not everyone that drink murders and kills people.
I feel like a lot of people underestimate the negative side effects of birth control. I had the nexplanon for about 4 months, and I started having extreme depression & suicidal thoughts. The hormones in that birth control and pills are very toxic, so just be careful.
If you're considering hooking up with a classmate or a coworker or a friend or anyone you see somewhat regularly, first give it the ol' post-masturbation test: masturbate on your own, and then the moment after you cum, imagine how it'd feel right then and there to be next to the person that you're considering hooking up with. Would you want to just chill with them afterwards, maybe hold them, or watch somethin or talk or do whatever? Would you enjoy still being around them for a while?? Or would you rather just kinda go your separate ways?There is definitely a certain clarity of conscience post-masturbation. It is worth sincere recognition in regard to these matters.
Sounds like Jordan never got fucked in the free love gen.
Great video but it's not going to change anything. To many hook up apps and media encourages sex
LOL! Majority of the sex is out of the relationship and that is ok!By the way, fuck romance!
I wonder how many people who listen to Jordan Peterson talk about sex haven't had sex themselves 🤔
I thought aids kinda spread bc Regan no aiding those infected bc they thought it was exclusive to gay ppl
Gtfo with this conservative bs about "oh, ban all alcohol". Really, blanket bans are not the solution. Getting to the root of the problem is the solution.
Nice suit prof
Anyone who has a problem with this man is not to be trusted.
Jordan Petersons ideas are way too brilliant and deep for the radical childish leftist world that seems to make so many important decisions today. The second you stop running from responsibility it becomes clear that one night stands are incredibly wreckless and that abortion is clearly wrong.
"You want to stop rape, get rid of alcohol", then proceeds to say only half of other, worse crimes are caused by people who are drunk..?
The alcohol thing is 100% true. So many situations could be avoided if it wasn’t for the fact that this pervasive, legal drug is being used left right and centre by everyone and anyone.
Great speach. But damn, not one black face in that crowd
I want my 2 mins back.
"And there's harm in it. There's emotional harm it in."
That's true. You enjoy it, yet you feel that you're doing something that is a wrong thing to do, and it all gradually snowballs and goes downhill from there.
The best advice I heard about sex growing up was from my sex ed teacher who said, "If you aren't ready to have children and you aren't willing to have the person you're with be a parent, then you shouldn't have sex." That's a super conservative statement, but I think it's great advice.
24/7 access to porn is ruining our society. No one is talking about THAT. Pornography sells the idea that promiscuity is something that is fulfilling and something is missing if you don’t engage in it.
man this guy is full of shit
Some of what he says is sadly the ugly truth, and that's what's beautiful in Dr. Peterson's wisdom. Though he is a clinician and he attempts to ground a lot of things in science, some of it comes from his personal values and navigations that he has made in life, that may be more a personal truth for him than a universal one. One of his initial fight that brought him to the lime light is freedom of speech and not to be criminalized for not using the "correct" gender pronoun. We are also animals along the evolutionary line he has acknowledged this many times. So then why not sex? While I agreed that intoxication has had a devastating impact on sexual regret and incidents of rape and sexual harassment, promiscuity is a separate issue.FACTS: Humans are NOT monogamous. Many cultures across the world may promote and support monogamy in relatively recent history, and some from pre-history, but infidelity is also a species-old evolutionary phenomenon that should not be trivialized as minimal when most of it happened underground. Dr. Peterson's assessment of modern-day sexual issues and the "hookup culture" only looks at what has happened in the past 60 years. Human sexuality is complicated and cannot be simplified or constrained to long-term monogamous relationships, although there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that. 3 % of all species on earth are truly monogamous; humans are not one of them. We can aspire to transition towards monogamy overtime and our environment may well help make that transition for us, but judgment should not be passed against those who live their lives happily in polygamy, open relationships, choosing to be single and as safely promiscuous as possible, because they are a product of the "modern age" or more clearly and specifically, birth control. I appreciate hearing his learned ideas and opinions, along with some facts. If he ever proposed to make any of those rules however, that would be going against the very thing he first started to fight for.
It's so refreshing how sensible this man is.
1) Blames sexual assault on alcohol 2) Makes it sound like marriage means consent when actually marriage has long been used on occasion as an excuse to rape partners “but we’re married – she has to” etc 3) Makes broad unsupported statements that extra-marital sex or sex outside of long-term relationships is almost always harmful 4) conflates sexual assault with someone not “thinking it through” or “feeling regret after the fact” and therefore faux-intellectualizing propaganda meant to invalidate movements meant to protect women and inform men such as #metoo and #timesup 5) argues you should choose your mate between 20 & 30 and you have to make a decision quick 6) falsely claims the “radical” left requires written consent before having sex. Nope. Logical fallacies don’t supplant what’s really going on here. The “radical crazy left” as you call it isn’t trying to get people to sign consent forms before sleeping together, and those that are if they even exist are few and far between. The aim is to clarify what consent means, hold people accountable, and reveal something that has been a norm for far too long. And that’s that men have taken advantage of women since the dawn of time. And while to be fair there are examples of women being irresponsible or equally at fault, and it’s disturbing those that take advantage of these revelations to exploit men, we know that’s not the overall trend. We’re not making up a problem we’re revealing an issue that’s been going on for far too long. And trust me, plenty of us “radical lefties” still like to have dirty, dirty sex.
Jordan Peterson is such an intelligent guy
at a party everybody drinking next morn girl calls cops she was drunk and got raped. guy gets arrested he had been drunk also and had sex with accuser. Question: they were both drunk probably got caught up in the moment but why is the guy hauled away if they had both been under the influence.
Depressing Video. Trust me
Although it's not a peer reviewed article have you read " Inside the Scam of the Purity Movement" by Sarah Stankorb inside Cosmopolitan Magazine March 2019…Its an interest discussion of the issue, not my personal views but an interesting read.
Healthy minded person: "Wow, a highly intelligent man of actual reason – we're not doomed!"
Leftist SJWs: "His views are misogynistic – roast him for he is a 'man'!"
Fascist Antifa: "He is a Nazi – f**k the right for free speech and let's riot every time he publicly opens his mouth!"
In his words, "unbelievable, technological triumph of birth control." Hahahahaha It is akin to the belief that humans are animals and they have a voracious appetite for fast food sex. Jordan Peterson is willfully ignorant of the fact that procreation is an art form. Evidently, he is devoid of wisdom and his philosophy is a desecration of Christian values.
Jordan "We need to have a very serious conversation about this" Peterson
The only thing I can agree with is that you have to screen and choose wisely who you are dealing with. Should probably avoid dodgy situations also. But it doesn't necessarily have to be marriage and/or monogamy. In fact, marriage does more harm than good, it doesn't work. You can easily see this by counting a number of divorced people around you.
AIDS. Not a plus.
I am so attracted to Jordan Peterson. My female reproductive DNA is telling me to select him and reproduce with his DNA. Hard.
Western culture has mainstreamed promiscuity and the cultures that paced premium on monogamy & falling prey to the same. Don't get me wrong, the West has been a pioneer of several great technological & cultural milestones which contributed immensely to the entire humanity. But the cheapening of human values is also something you get to experience first hand if you get to live in the West, particularly the anglo-world. You see lot of broken families, kids raised in a horrible environment and morals being loose so much so that anyone batting for yesteryear values are seen as bigoted or antiquated. It's about time the West wakes up to the destruction from within.
3:46 Prostitutes and their clients have been taking sex out of the context of relationships for thousands of years.>>4:02 Man, I really hope this is made up. I'm not connected to the hookup culture in any way, but that's just unfair to the man in the situation.>>6:43 Yeah, but you ever see a movie in which much of anything realistic happened? The movies aren't a strong argument for anything.* (Not that I believe in "signed consent," except perhaps as rape-accusation prevention.) *The reverse of the argument that if something doesn't happen in movies, it's an unrealistic solution, is that something that does happen in movies is a realistic solution. That is, of course, untrue.)
Chaos. Hardcore chaos in western culture
This guy is ridiculous.
I really fucking hate it when women bitch and complain about unwanted pregnancy while going around having sex with 10+ people. It’s extremely hypocritical. They try to make victims out of themselves for voluntarily participating in one of the most risky activities you can possibly do. You don’t want STDs or kids? DON’T. HAVE. SEX. It’s really not that hard to just keep your fucking legs closed. Just like it’s not that hard to just keep it in your pants. I don’t wanna hear you crying about all the risks because you’re a pleasure-driven retard who can’t go one day without fucking everything that moves.
I never frowned upon casual sex, and I still don’t, really… I generally believe that people should do whatever they want to, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. However, I definitely see where he’s coming from. Close human relationships are one of the most important things in our lives, but it’s considered to be almost shameful to take them seriously as a young person these days.
Most of these things were questioned by Catholic scholars and thinkers back since the 1960ies. Others – mostly from the "advanced" west were labelling them as "comservatuve" and "backwarded" and other mean words. Listening to him is like reading books from the 1800 literature.
all those thots in the audience looking ashamed.
4:47 female logic at its finest.
People don't want to admit how spiritual sex is. Whether it's casual or not, you will have the consequences of the spiritual side of sex. But allas…
4:45 That would be heaven
thank again JP for addressing issues our leaders are to slow think about and work on. No on talks about anything except JP….. he brings the real issues to light but even after the fact people still don't do anything. It's like basically jp goes under the hoop with the ball and is waiting for us to get ready to dunk so he can give us a winning score…. but nooooo everyone is too afraid to take the shot.
I completely agree that if you're too embarrased to talk about sex with the person you are having sex with, you are probably not ready to have a sexual relationship with the person involved.
There're no evidence sex can't be a physical act only, there are evolutionary reason for that, especially for men to have multiple sex partner, so it happens in the animal kingdom. So I don't see anything strange to that, think to when you have a massage for example, it is 100% a physical and pleasurable interact between two people, but ZERO emotion involved in it. Is the problem with my genital organ that is supposed to be the trigger on my emotions? Again, there're ZERO evidence of that either and if you think about it, do you become emotional when you masturbate? Of couse not, there's just physical pleasure and there's nothing wrong with that, even when another person is involved like in massages or casual sex, both people are getting physical pleasure, that's it and that should be it.I'm really curious about your elaborations about my point
I totally agree with this, I'm 24 surrounded by people who care only for sex. I Feel like the world has gone mad with sexual lechery
I didn't choose the MGTOW Life, the MGTOW Life chose Me.
Today the normal thing (for most of civilisation history) of not having sex till marriage is considered not normal. There are legitimate concerns of how much we have changed our culture in the last 60 years.
Why alcohol? Because its not natural to fuck around with complete strangers. At least not for women. So they need to be drunk as fuck to keep up with society standards of this hookup culture. 🤦🏾♀️
I wish I would have take sex more seriously long ago
The other thing to keep in mind as a man is that consent can be revoked AT ANY TIME. Having sex is just like holding hands. If one party says to stop and the other party refuses to do so, they’re committing a crime.
I don’t care – I just bang bitches
What is funny (NOT) in this speech is that JP mixes the idea of contraception with the idea of sexual consent, suggesting that because of contraception men have a problem understanding when to go further. As per his discourse, contraception is to blame, because if it wasn't for contraception, you would get married and only then could you have sex without making sure that she wants to, with no worries about legal issues; when she said YES in front of the priest, she said YES for sex anywhere and anytime. That is what this speech entails. In other words, it justifies rape by blaming contraception (and alkohol) and victimizes men who are tempted to have sex without caring about their partners' desires (regardless whether it's their wives or just women using contraception). Mindblowing. It frightens me to see such a bright man saying such BS.
His views are simple, obvious, and stark. So damned stark, like there's no hope. We're all at odds. God help us; our tangled webs
Spot on with hard truths.
It sounds like Peterson is saying that people should be monogamous out of fear if nothing else.
Perfect video to show to anyone going into puberty, but also many adults. Brilliant
Chachma bagoyim tamin! Brilliant simply brilliant!!
Hookup culture is messy. People do want to be free in choice and free from the outcome wether it be for better or for worse. I dont know why- or how they are thinking to get a neutral reaction after such interaction. Unless its sex work because i mean if you do any job enough it becomes almost automatic for anything you do even if its enjoyable.
Since birth control men can have their cake and eat it.
Feminism is great for guys. A mate had 5 girls in a week and paid 80 euros for them all.:) before feminism, men had to work for it and show the woman that he is mature and cares about her.
If two friends who are just aroused want to have sex without wanting anything serious or romantic, I don't have any issue with that. As long as there is some level of intimacy, trust, and respect for each other while they both fully accept responsibility for their choices, what ever they wish to do together is right by me. Those are the very basic fundamentals for engaging in sexual activities, and the idea that we can completely separate those from sex is a big no no for me.
There is no hookup culture most american males sleep with 7 women during their lifetime.
The post below: "My son is not getting "the talk", he's getting this video haha" is hilarious.
I'm not convinced that it is worse now than when I grew up although people want to talk about sex more with the social media revolution. If I had to live life over again I would wait until marriage, but since I didn't I would be a hypocrite to judge people that don't. But I am at least relieved when people are in committed relationships since dating is dangerous, especially when alcohol is involved.
I take care of a lot of people who are suffering from the "sexual revolution" including HPV related oral and anorectal cancers and HIV. The risk soars with number of partners but if you look at stories on forums there are stories like: "……my boyfriend. It only happened one time." From someone dealing with some heavy shit. Sometimes, all you can do is pray for people — but no judgement from me. Adorable is adorable whether sexually active or not. And in the eyes of Christ, people are precious, even when dying from HIV. I think connecting to a higher power is the best way to sort out most problems in life including who to partner with. I don't think God is trying to control people, but to protect people from unnecessary suffering.
This is honestly one of Jordan Peterson’s greatest moments and really under appreciated
about 5 people to really try out? I've found only one, it lasted over 3 years, but now I'm turning 27 in February…ohh boy
6:20 yes it's a good idea it's just called a mirage document ….
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